Be the second person to volunteer
The first person to speak up takes all the risk. The second one makes it safe for everyone after.
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Why it lands
In any room, the first person to raise a hand, admit confusion or disagree with the senior voice is exposed — and if nobody follows, they are marked. The second voice changes it from an outlier into a position. It costs almost nothing because the risk has already been absorbed, and it is the single most useful thing a bystander can do in a meeting.
How
Speak immediately after them and be explicit: “I had the same question” or “I agree with Nadia and here's why.” Say their name, so the credit stays attached. Do not restate their point as your own.
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