Knock when you realize you have not seen someone
Curtains shut two days running, bins not out, post building up. Noticing is common. Knocking is rare and occasionally decisive.
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Almost every account of someone found late begins with a neighbor who had noticed something and assumed it was not their business. The hesitation is reasonable — nobody wants to intrude or look foolish — but the asymmetry is severe: being wrong costs you thirty seconds of mild embarrassment, and being right can matter enormously. Worth being wrong a hundred times.
How
Knock with an excuse that lets everyone save face: “Sorry — I'm doing a delivery and wasn't sure if you were in.” If there is no answer and you are genuinely concerned, ring the non-emergency police line and say what you have observed. Do not force entry or climb anything.
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