Learn the dog's name first, then the owner's
The dog is the easiest introduction on any street, and the one conversation nobody finds intrusive.
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Dog owners are stopped constantly, which sounds like it would make it unwelcome and does the opposite — it is the one interaction they expect and have decided is fine. It gives two strangers a subject that is not each other, which is exactly what makes a first conversation survivable. The dog is scaffolding; within a few weeks you are talking to the person and the dog is incidental.
How
Ask the dog's name, and use it next time — the owner will notice you remembered. After the second or third time, close the loop: “I know Bracken's name and not yours, which seems wrong.” Always ask before touching the dog; plenty are nervous and their owners are tired of explaining.
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