Say something specific about their garden
Someone is doing that for nobody's benefit but the street's, and almost certainly has never been told it was noticed.
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Why it lands
A front garden is unusual: it is entirely private effort for an entirely public result. The person weeding it gets no feedback loop at all — no customers, no colleagues, nobody saying it was worth the Saturday. People keep doing it anyway, which makes the first time somebody mentions it disproportionately affecting. The specificity matters, because a general compliment reads as small talk.
How
Name the actual thing. “The white roses by your gate are the best thing on this street in June” lands; “nice garden” does not. If you can, say when you noticed it — that it is something you look at on the way to work turns a compliment into evidence.
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