Answer a child as if they could understand
Children ask real questions and get deflections. A serious answer is memorable precisely because it is so unusual.
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Why it lands
Most adults simplify past the point of meaning or deflect entirely, on the assumption that the real answer is too complicated. Children notice being fobbed off with complete accuracy and learn which adults are worth asking. Being the one who answers properly — including saying you do not know — is how a child ends up with an adult they can bring difficult things to later.
How
Answer the actual question at whatever level they can follow, and say “I don't know, shall we find out?” when you do not. Never say they will understand when they are older, which is the sentence that ends the asking.
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