Be the one who actually books it
Everyone agrees they should meet up. Groups fail at the step where somebody names a date and holds it.
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Friendships between adults usually end by attrition rather than decision — everyone means it, nobody does the admin, and two years pass. The organizer role is unglamorous, mildly thankless and the single point of failure for most social groups. Being that person is the difference between a group that still exists in a decade and one that becomes people you used to know.
How
Do not ask when suits everyone, which guarantees paralysis. Propose one date and one place: “The 14th, 7pm, here. Tell me if you can't.” Accept that some cannot come. Book it, then send one reminder two days before.
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