Stand next to someone being harassed
Intervening directly can escalate. Standing beside the person and talking to them usually does not.
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Why it lands
The instinct is to confront, which often increases the risk for the person being targeted. What tends to work better is distraction: attending to the target rather than the aggressor removes the audience the behavior depends on and gives the person an ally without a confrontation. It works because harassment is a performance that needs a passive crowd, and it stops being one when somebody joins the other side.
How
Go and stand with them and start an ordinary conversation — ask for directions, the time, anything — while ignoring the aggressor entirely. Stay until they are safe. Ask afterwards what they want to do rather than deciding for them.
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