Check the venue before you invite someone
Asking a disabled friend to check whether somewhere works puts the whole job on the person it affects.
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Why it lands
Disabled people spend enormous energy on logistics everyone else never thinks about — ringing ahead, checking step counts, verifying that the accessible entrance is not through a bin store. When a group picks a venue and asks them to confirm it works, that labor is handed to the one person already carrying the most. Doing the checking yourself is the difference between being included and being accommodated.
How
Ring the venue and ask specifics: how many steps, is there a lift and does it work, is the accessible toilet in use as storage, how loud is it. Ask your friend what matters to them first, once, then do the checking every time after that.
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