Do the jobs that need a ladder
Light bulbs, smoke alarms, curtain hooks. A short list of small jobs becomes impossible at the same time.
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Anything above head height is where independence fails first, and the failures are consequential: a dead smoke alarm battery, a bulb out on the stairs. People manage without rather than asking, because each job is too small to justify a call. Offering to do the whole category at once — everything high up — catches the things they would never have mentioned individually.
How
Offer it as a sweep rather than a single task: “I'll bring the stepladder and do anything up high — bulbs, alarms, curtains.” Test every smoke alarm while you are there and replace the batteries. Leave spares somewhere reachable.
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