Take the other child out
When one child is seriously ill or disabled, their brothers and sisters become invisible to every adult around them.
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Why it lands
Siblings of ill children are the ones who absorb the cost quietly: their parents' attention is necessarily elsewhere, they learn early not to add to the load, and adults asking after the family always mean the patient. They rarely complain, which is exactly why it goes unnoticed for years. An adult who is interested in them specifically is genuinely rare in that period.
How
Take them out on their own and make it about them — their interests, not their sibling. Ask how school is going rather than how their brother is. Do it regularly enough to be a fixture rather than a treat.
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