Give the introduction, not the advice
When a friend is stuck, the name of someone who has done it is worth more than your opinion about it.
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Why it lands
Advice from a friend is well meant and usually generic, because they are reasoning from outside the problem. A single introduction to someone who has actually done the thing — moved country, left the profession, had the operation — transfers real information and costs you one message. People reach for advice because it is faster; the introduction is the thing that helps.
How
Think about who you know rather than what you think. Ask that person first, then introduce with the reason attached. If you genuinely do not know anyone, say so plainly instead of filling the gap with opinions.
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