Invite the whole household, not just the one you know
Partners and teenagers of a newcomer are often more isolated than the person who has the job or the class.
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Why it lands
When a family moves for one person's work, that person gets a ready-made social structure and everyone else gets nothing. The trailing partner in particular is frequently far more isolated, has no colleagues, and is rarely invited anywhere in their own right. Extending an invitation to the household rather than the individual is a small change that reaches the person who actually needs it.
How
Name them: “Bring Anna — we'd like to meet her” rather than “bring who you like”, which reads as an afterthought. Then follow up with a separate invitation directly to them, so it is not mediated through their partner.
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