Keep inviting after the diagnosis
People stop inviting the seriously ill to ordinary things, assuming they cannot come. Being asked is the point.
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Illness shrinks a social world twice — once through what the body can do, and once through what other people assume it can do. The second is avoidable and often larger. Being left off an invitation list is read accurately, as being written off. Letting the person decide what they are up to preserves the one thing illness takes fastest, which is agency.
How
Invite exactly as before, and add the exit route: “Completely fine to say no, or to say yes and cancel on the day.” Offer the adjustment without making it the headline — a lift, an earlier slot, somewhere with parking.
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