Let the car out
Someone has been waiting at that junction for four minutes. It costs you eight seconds and they remember it.
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Why it lands
Traffic is one of the few daily situations where people experience strangers as pure obstruction, and it sours a morning out of all proportion to the delay. A driver waiting to turn across a queue has no leverage at all — they are dependent on someone choosing to yield. Being that person interrupts a small spiral of frustration, and the effect visibly propagates: people who are let out let others out.
How
Leave the gap early enough that they can see it, and flash or wave clearly so there is no ambiguity. Do not wave someone across a lane you cannot see — that is how people get hit. Yield only for your own lane.
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