Make the introduction you keep meaning to make
You know two people who should meet. The introduction takes four minutes and you have owed it for months.
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Being the connector between two networks is a position of unusual leverage — you can hand someone a job, a client or a collaborator with an email. The reason it does not happen is not reluctance but friction: it sits on a mental list with no deadline and nobody chasing it. The people who would benefit cannot ask, because they do not know the other exists.
How
Ask both first, then send one message with both of them on it, saying specifically why each should care about the other. Then get out of the thread — staying in it makes them both perform for you. “I'll leave you two to it” is the whole job.
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