Find a chair before anyone asks
Standing is the hidden barrier at parties, queues and exhibitions, and asking for a seat means explaining why.
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Why it lands
A great many conditions make standing for twenty minutes genuinely difficult — heart conditions, arthritis, pregnancy, chronic fatigue, recovery from surgery — and almost none are visible. Standing events quietly exclude all of them. Having seating available, and placing it where the conversation actually is, removes the problem without anyone having to identify themselves.
How
Put chairs where people are gathering rather than round the edges, so sitting is not social exile. Have more than you think you need. Do not offer one to a specific person unless they ask.
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