Record them telling one story
Families consistently say the thing they wish they had is a recording of the voice, not more photographs.
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Why it lands
Voices go first from memory and are almost never captured deliberately. Every family that has lost someone describes the same specific regret — a voicemail kept for years, a single video where they can be heard in the background. Recording one story while it is easy costs ten minutes and produces the thing that will be most valuable later, which is a fact people only discover too late.
How
Ask permission and use your phone's voice recorder — it is less inhibiting than video. Ask for one specific story you have heard before, not their life history. Back it up somewhere that is not just the phone, and send a copy to the rest of the family.
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