Follow up on the thing they were dreading
Ask about the interview, the scan, the difficult conversation — on the day it actually happens.
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Why it lands
Following up requires having stored something and set a reminder, which is why it so rarely happens. That is exactly what makes it register: it is unfalsifiable evidence that you were paying attention days after the conversation ended. For the person going through it, a message on the morning of the thing is worth more than an hour of sympathy the week before.
How
Put it in your calendar the moment they mention it, with the detail. On the day: “Thinking of you this morning — hope the scan goes okay.” Ask again afterwards, because the aftermath is the part everyone forgets to ask about.
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