Say whose idea it actually was
Ideas get repeated by louder people and absorbed by the room. Ten words of attribution puts it back where it belongs.
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Why it lands
This happens constantly and almost never maliciously: someone says something early, the room isn't ready, a more confident voice says it again ten minutes later, and the credit attaches to the repetition. The person who said it first watches it happen and usually decides not to make a fuss. Attribution from a third party costs nothing and is believed in a way that self-advocacy never is.
How
Say it in the moment, plainly and without making it a confrontation: “That's what Priya said earlier — Priya, do you want to take it from here?” Handing them the floor matters more than the credit; it puts them back in the conversation rather than just on the record.
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