Send someone a photo of themselves from years ago
Everybody has pictures of other people sitting unseen on a hard drive. The subject has usually never seen them.
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Why it lands
Photographs of us are mostly held by other people, and the ones we have not seen are the most valuable — a picture from a decade ago showing a version of yourself you have forgotten, or a person in it who has since died. Sending one costs nothing and delivers something genuinely irreplaceable, which is a rare combination.
How
Send it with the context: where, when, and what was happening. Send the unflattering candid one as well as the good one — the candid is usually the one people keep. If someone in it has died, send it privately and without commentary.
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