Teach the phone thing properly, not quickly
Doing it for them solves today. Teaching it slowly, written down, solves the next two years.
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The usual pattern is that a younger relative takes the phone, fixes it in nine seconds, hands it back, and nothing is learnt — which guarantees the same call next month and quietly confirms the older person's belief that they cannot manage technology. That belief is the actual disability; it is what stops people banking, booking and talking to their grandchildren, and it is created by well-meaning speed.
How
Sit beside them and let them hold the device. Talk them through it while their fingers do it, then have them do it again from the start. Write the steps on paper in large print and leave it by the phone. Expect to repeat it three times.
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