Notice who has not spoken
In most meetings two or three people never speak, and the reason is almost never that they have nothing to say.
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Why it lands
Remote meetings in particular are won by whoever is most comfortable interrupting, which selects for confidence rather than knowledge. The quiet people usually include whoever actually does the work being discussed. Naming someone into the conversation is the cheapest available intervention, and it is far more effective coming from a peer than from the chair.
How
Give them a specific, answerable opening rather than a spotlight: “Dan, you've done this migration before — does this match what you saw?” beats “Dan, anything to add?”, which is an invitation to say no. Then stop talking and let the pause sit.
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