Offer to take another child as well
You are already doing the trip. One more in the car is the cheapest help a parent can give another parent.
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Why it lands
Single parents, shift workers and anyone without a car are constrained by logistics far more than by willingness, and their children miss things for reasons nobody discusses. Since you are making the journey anyway, the marginal cost is one seat. It is also easier to accept than most offers, because it visibly costs the giver almost nothing.
How
Offer specifically and repeatedly: “I'm driving to the match every Saturday — shall I take Josh too?” Make it a standing arrangement rather than a favor, which removes the need to ask each time.
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She said nobody had ever asked her that.
Roger, Seattle
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