Tell a parent something good about their child
Parents hear from school when there is a problem. Positive observations from another adult are rare and enormously reassuring.
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Why it lands
The feedback parents receive is heavily skewed negative because institutions contact them about problems. Meanwhile they are privately anxious about whether their child is kind, or coping, or liked. An unprompted observation from another adult — something specific you saw the child do — is evidence of a kind they almost never get, and it tends to be repeated to the child and remembered for years.
How
Report the specific behavior rather than a judgement: “She noticed the new boy had nobody to sit with and moved without being asked.” Say it privately to the parent. Do not attach advice.
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