Three things

Here are 3

Pick one. Each takes about as long as it says.

• Talk to the one who married in

  Every family gathering has somebody who knows none of the stories, and everybody is assuming somebody else is talking to them.

  Half an hourFreeA relative

• Ask now what they would want

  Where they want to be, who decides, what they would refuse. Asked over tea it is a conversation. Asked in a corridor it is a crisis.

  Half an hourFreeA relative

• Write down how their house actually works

  Which tap drips, where the stopcock is, who fixes the boiler. One page, on the fridge, for whoever needs it next.

  Half an hourFreeA relative