Three things

Here are 3

Nothing matched all three, so how long you have was set aside. These still match who it is for.

• Call the relative you only see at funerals

  Nobody fell out. It lapsed on its own, and now the only time you are in a room together is when somebody has died.

  5 minutesFreeA relative

• Talk to the one who married in

  Every family gathering has somebody who knows none of the stories, and everybody is assuming somebody else is talking to them.

  Half an hourFreeA relative

• Ask now what they would want

  Where they want to be, who decides, what they would refuse. Asked over tea it is a conversation. Asked in a corridor it is a crisis.

  Half an hourFreeA relative