Cover so the carer can see a doctor themselves
Carers routinely postpone their own health appointments for years because there is nobody to take over.
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Why it lands
Long-term carers tend to be in worse health than the people around them, and a large part of the reason is straightforwardly logistical: they cannot leave. Screening appointments, dental work and their own symptoms get deferred indefinitely. Covering for two hours removes the only obstacle, and it is the version of respite with the clearest long-term payoff.
How
Offer it for that purpose explicitly, because they will otherwise use the time on chores: “Book your own appointment and I'll cover it — that's what the time is for.” Ask afterwards whether they went, once, without nagging.
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