Offer to do the paperwork after a death
Bereavement comes with dozens of phone calls in which you explain, repeatedly, that someone has died.
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The administrative load of a death is brutal and almost never mentioned: banks, utilities, pensions, subscriptions, each requiring the bereaved person to say the sentence out loud again to a stranger reading a script. It is the one part of grieving that can genuinely be done by somebody else, and it is the part nobody offers to take because it sounds intrusive rather than kind.
How
Offer the specific job: “Give me the list of accounts to close and I'll sit on hold.” Many companies have bereavement teams and will accept a nominated helper. Keep a written record of who you spoke to and when, because they will be asked.
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