Explain the rule nobody writes down
Every workplace, school and country runs on conventions that insiders cannot see and newcomers cannot guess.
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The hardest part of arriving anywhere is not the stated rules but the unstated ones — how early is early, whether you bring something, what people mean when they say let's get a coffee. Insiders cannot list them because they are invisible from inside. Newcomers get them wrong, are judged for it, and never learn why. Naming one explicitly is a genuine transfer of power.
How
Say the thing you would never put in writing: “Everyone says the meeting's at ten but it starts at five past” or “you're expected to say no twice before accepting.” Offer it rather than waiting for them to get it wrong.
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