Give money without making it a loan
A loan between friends creates a debt that outlasts the need. A gift, clearly stated, does not.
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Money lent to a friend converts a friendship into a creditor relationship, and the debt is usually felt far longer than the amount justifies — people avoid each other over sums they would happily have given. If you can afford to lose it, giving it removes the entire dynamic. If you cannot afford to lose it, you cannot afford to lend it either, and saying so honestly is kinder than an unpayable loan.
How
Say it plainly and once: “This is a gift. I will never mention it again and I do not want it back.” Then genuinely never mention it. If they try to repay you, accept it gracefully rather than refusing, which puts the debt back on them.
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