Go to the celebration that is not yours
Turning up to somebody else's festival, service or national day is a bigger gesture than it costs you.
The BeingKind editorsPublished How this is written
Why it lands
Minority communities host events that are open and largely unattended by anyone outside them, which is quietly read as indifference. Attending as an obvious outsider is mildly uncomfortable for an hour and lands as something much larger: evidence that the community is part of the place rather than adjacent to it. Hosts almost always remember who came.
How
Check whether it is open, then just go. Ask what is customary — shoes, head covering, whether to bring something — beforehand rather than guessing. Eat what you are offered, ask questions, and do not photograph people without asking.
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