Keep answering after they have left
People lose their whole support network when they change jobs, at exactly the point they most need advice.
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Changing jobs severs the informal network — the person you could ask a stupid question without consequence — on the same day you start needing it most. New colleagues are still strangers you are trying to impress. Being the person who stays reachable after they leave costs you a message every few weeks and is worth more than any amount of mentoring while they were still down the corridor.
How
Say it explicitly on their last day, because otherwise they will assume the relationship ended with the contract: “Message me when you hit something odd. I mean it, not as a leaving-card thing.” Then reply when they do.
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