Keep including the person whose language it is not
Groups drift back into the majority language within minutes, and the one person left out never says anything.
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Mixed-language conversations revert to whatever is easiest for the majority, almost immediately and without anyone deciding. The person excluded rarely objects, because objecting means asking several people to be less comfortable for their benefit. They simply become quiet and are then described as shy. One person noticing and steering back is what keeps them in the room.
How
Summarize rather than translate everything: “We're arguing about the parking, Ana — what do you think?” Slow down and drop idioms rather than raising your voice. Address them directly at intervals, which pulls the group's language back with you.
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