Stay in touch with the person who left
People who leave a workplace, a church or a town are dropped quickly, and it is rarely a decision anyone made.
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Shared context is what most adult relationships run on, and when it disappears the relationship usually goes with it — not through any falling out, but because nobody initiates once the daily reason has gone. The person who left loses an entire network at once. A single person who keeps in touch is often the only thread back, and it costs a message a month.
How
Message about something specific rather than saying you must catch up. Put a recurring reminder in your calendar, because you will otherwise mean to and not. Invite them to things they can no longer hear about.
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