Keep a child's routine running
When adults are consumed by an emergency, children lose the ordinary things that tell them the world still works.
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Children read stability from routine rather than from reassurance. During a family crisis the swimming lesson, the Wednesday club and the walk to school are the first things to lapse, and their disappearance tells a child more than anything the adults are saying. Someone outside the household keeping one of those running is doing something for the child that the parents genuinely cannot do at that moment.
How
Take one specific recurring thing and own it completely: “I'll do the Tuesday swimming run for the next month.” Keep it identical — same time, same routine — and do not use the journeys to ask the child how things are at home.
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