Let someone pay for you
Always insisting on paying can be a way of staying the one who gives. Accepting is its own kindness.
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Generosity has a status dimension that people rarely acknowledge: the person who always pays is also the person who never owes, which quietly keeps the relationship asymmetric. For a friend with less money, being permitted to give something back matters more than the saving. Accepting graciously is harder than giving and is often the more generous move.
How
Say yes and thank you, without the counter-offer or the promise to get the next one. If you want to reciprocate, do it in a different currency — time, a lift, a meal cooked — rather than keeping an explicit ledger.
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