Ask what stopped when the driving did
Giving up driving usually ends several activities at once, quietly, and nobody connects the two.
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Why it lands
Losing a license is treated as a transport problem and is actually a social one. The choir, the allotment, the Thursday lunch and the church all end in the same month, and because each ending is small nobody registers that a life just contracted sharply. Asking specifically what stopped is how you find the one thing that a lift could restore.
How
Ask the direct question: “What did you stop doing when you stopped driving?” Then offer to restore one specific thing, on a named day. Do not offer to take them everywhere — one thing reliably beats a general willingness.
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