Ring at the same time every week
A call that arrives predictably becomes something to look forward to. A random one is just a call.
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Why it lands
For someone whose week has few fixed points, a scheduled call does something an unscheduled one cannot: it gives the days before it a shape. People describe saving things up to tell you, which is the mechanism that actually works against loneliness — not the twenty minutes of conversation, but the anticipation and the having-something-to-report either side of it.
How
Pick a slot and keep it — “Sundays at six” — and say explicitly that it is a standing arrangement. If you will miss one, say so the week before. Ten reliable minutes beats an hour that happens when you remember.
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