Know when their important days are
Everyone knows when Christmas is. Far fewer know when Eid, Diwali or Rosh Hashanah fall, or acknowledge them.
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Working through your own religious festival while the office decorates for someone else's is a specific and rarely discussed experience. Nobody expects a colleague to celebrate with them; what registers is being asked about it at all, and not having deadlines set on the one day of the year that matters most. It takes one calendar entry.
How
Put the dates in your calendar — they move each year — and ask what they actually do rather than assuming. Check the timing of meetings and deadlines against them. Wishing someone well by name for their own festival is the whole thing.
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