Say plainly that you are glad they came
Anyone new spends months privately unsure whether they are wanted or merely tolerated. One sentence settles it.
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Belonging is inferred from ambiguous evidence, and newcomers read neutral politeness as barely-concealed indifference. The doubt persists far longer than anyone on the inside imagines — people describe still wondering after a year. A direct statement is startling precisely because nobody says these things out loud, and it is remembered long after whatever else you did.
How
Say it plainly and without hedging: “I'm really glad you joined this. It's better with you here.” Give one concrete reason. Say it once, properly, rather than gesturing at it repeatedly.
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