Start the street group, and keep it about the street
A neighborhood group is genuinely useful for about six months and then becomes a place people argue about parking.
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These groups are one of the few tools that reliably reduce isolation on a street — they surface the person who needs a lift, the tool somebody has, the elderly resident nobody had checked on. They also degrade predictably into surveillance and complaint, which drives out exactly the people who most needed including. The difference is almost entirely down to whether someone sets a tone early and holds it.
How
Set the purpose in the name and the first message: “For lending things, lost cats and checking on each other. Not for complaints — take those to the council.” Post useful things yourself for the first month. Knock on the doors of anyone not online, and relay to them.
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