Take one night shift
Sleep deprivation is the part of caring that breaks people, and it is the hardest thing to ask anyone for.
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Why it lands
Long-term interrupted sleep degrades judgement, mood and physical health in ways carers themselves usually cannot see. It is also the least askable favor — staying overnight is a big imposition and everyone knows it. A single uninterrupted night is not a solution, but carers describe it as the thing that reset them enough to keep going.
How
Offer a specific night and stay over so they can sleep through. Get the full routine written down, including what to do if something goes wrong and who to call. Send them to bed early rather than letting them sit up with you.
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