Warn someone what the phrase actually means
'We should do this again sometime' means different things in different places, and getting it wrong is painful.
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Social scripts do not translate. In some cultures a vague suggestion is a real invitation and in others it is a polite ending; assuming the wrong one produces either an awkward follow-up or a missed friendship. Newcomers get this wrong for years and attribute the resulting failures to themselves. A single explanation of what a phrase actually signals saves a great deal of that.
How
Name the specific convention: “When people here say we must get lunch, it usually means nothing unless they suggest a date.” Then be the exception and suggest an actual date.
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