Ask someone to teach you their food
Being asked to share something from home reverses the usual direction, where the newcomer receives and thanks.
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People who have moved spend a long time on the receiving end — being helped, being shown, being welcomed. That asymmetry is wearing, however kindly meant. Asking to be taught something they are expert in inverts it completely and is often the first time since arriving that they have been the one with knowledge in the room.
How
Ask to be taught rather than asking them to cook for you. Buy the ingredients, go to the shop they recommend, and follow their method rather than adapting it. Make it again later and tell them how it went.
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