Plan something that is not built around drinking
People in recovery, pregnant, on medication or simply not drinking are excluded from most adult socialising by default.
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Alcohol is the default setting for adult social life, which quietly excludes a substantial number of people who then have to either explain themselves repeatedly or stop coming. Most do the second, and the group reads it as them drifting away. Building one occasion around something else removes the need for anyone to disclose anything, which is the part that matters.
How
Suggest the activity rather than the venue — a walk, a cinema, breakfast, a game. Do not announce that it is for anyone's benefit. Make sure the non-alcoholic option at ordinary events is something decent, not lemonade.
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