Take the shift that ruins a family day
Someone on your team has small children, a religious holiday or a parent in hospital. The rota does not know that.
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Rotas are built to be fair in the narrow sense of equal, which is not the same as fair. The Christmas shift costs a person with young children something entirely different from what it costs someone whose evening plan was a takeaway. Swapping is easy and almost nobody offers, because offering means noticing, and noticing takes attention nobody is paid to spend.
How
Offer the swap directly and privately, so they do not have to ask in front of the team: “I'm around on the 25th and I know you're not — want to swap?” Do not make it a favor they owe back; naming a debt is what stops people accepting.
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