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Kind things to do for a friend
For people you already love and probably tell less often than you think. A surprising number of these are about saying a specific thing rather than doing a big one.
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Turn up and do the washing up
In a house dealing with a crisis, the visible undone tasks are a constant reproach nobody has the energy for.
Half an hourFreeA friend
Drive them and wait in the car park
The journey to and from a hospital appointment is often harder than the appointment, and is done alone.
An afternoonFreeA friend
Stay friends with both of them
Friendship groups split after a separation, and the person who moved out usually loses everyone.
OngoingFreeA friend
Check on the friend who is visibly fine
Support goes to people who are obviously struggling. The competent ones are assumed not to need any.
5 minutesFreeA friend
Ask about the person who died
Grieving people are usually far more afraid of their person being forgotten than of being reminded.
5 minutesFreeA friend
Send a specific memory, not a check-in
"Thinking of you" asks for a reply. A memory just hands someone something.
5 minutesFreeA friend
Bring something to whoever has the worst shift
Someone is working Sunday night, the holiday, or the 5am open. They are having a different day than you.
Half an hourUnder $10A friend
Do the thing you keep saying you'll do
You already promised, and somebody is quietly still waiting. The kindest thing available today is the thing you have already said you would do.
Half an hourFreeA friend
Be the one who says the obvious thing
In most rooms somebody is being talked over and everyone can see it. Saying so out loud costs you one sentence and changes the room.
5 minutesFreeA friend